Today I read a very interesting article by author Leta Blake. Entitled *Am I an ally if I'm in the closet about my writing* I read it and felt for every word she said.
You can read it *** HERE ***, and I would love if you went over and read it and commented.
I think I am one of the lucky ones in this business we call MM writing. The first positive thing is that I live in a place where I guess, it is odder if you do attend church that if you don't. I don't know the statistics of belief in England but I am sure as a part of the UK we are probably the least church-going out of us, Wales, Scotland and Ireland.
If I look at myself and my *real life* friend circle I have four non believers, one on the fence, one who attends church on special occasions and has a quiet faith, and one who is a Christadelphian and who attends church at least twice a week and has a life guided entirely by those beliefs. None of my friends judge me but they all say they are looking forward to when I write normal stuff they can read. (Although my two closest friends have both read a couple of my books).
I have a small extended family, but my mum and sister are very proud and loud supporters of what I do. Although I know they both skip the sex scenes, they enjoy the *stories* and the HEAs.
I am also very lucky that my daughter is older. My daughter writes and reads MM, she is at a school that is gay friendly, and her boyfriend's best friend is gay. She doesn't care what people say to her about what I do and she is proud of what I write. Although she has been asked WHY I write MM and how do I know how to write male/male sex. Hello, it's called research... bwahahahaha.
As for Matt, he just knows that writing as RJ Scott means we get to go on holiday this summer to see ceiling fans in new towns where we are staying in Wales. ROFL.
I have readers who come to me to tell me that they don't let their husbands/parters/friends/family know what they read. Because those important people in their lives will judge them for it. That saddens me, but I am also very practical and know this happens and why. Reading MM, which lets face it most people not in the know would assume is porn, may well be easier on Kindles, but there is still a stigma. This is despite the horrificness that was Fifty Shades Of Grey... which made reading Mummy-Porn acceptable.
So am I more of an ally than an author who has to keep quiet about what they write? I don't think so. There are reasons for what we do in life. We make decisions based on the situation we are in NOW. If my daughter was little and I was embroiled in the whole school-gate gossip chains, or I lived in the Bible Belt in the US, or in a country that outloawed homosexulaity, then would I be so honest? I don't think so.
Also, if I hadn't become successful, would I admit what I do? It's okay for RJ Scott to be honest with everyone, because hell, I have so many of you out there supporting me, family and friends who support me, my daughter is a young adult now, and I live in England. Those factors mean at this very moment I can tell everyone what I write.
Now connecting RJ Scott to my real name? That is another issue. Anyone with an ounce of Google-Fu can probably connect the two - my publishers know, Meredith knows, Amber knows... so many of my FB friends know...
I'm not hiding that part of me from all of YOU... I am giving myself that last barrier of privacy.
Wow, this is heavy for a Friday morning... but... hello, I am RJ Scott and I write MM romance with a happy ever after... so sue me.